Yesterday, I came across a video on a page that I had ‘liked’ on Facebook. In all honesty, I didn’t watch the video, I just read the comments, and let me just tell you…they were not pretty. The video, in a nutshell, was about New York’s Stop and Frisk law but it made all police officers out to be racist douche bags.
Now lIsten, I fully admit that there are some terribly rotten police officers out there. There are even departments as a whole that are corrupt. But I will not for one second discount all cops as “pigs” (which is what they were commonly referred to as on this video and in the comments section below it) just because there are a few bad apples.
My husband has been told countless times by victims and even perps that he is fair and just. He treats everyone with respect so long as he is treated with respect. He is kind and courteous and believes that everyone should be treated equally. Now that’s not to say that if someone goes for a weapon or another individual (be that a cop or a civilian) that he isn’t going to react. He will do his job. He will protect the citizens of our community as well as his fellow brother’s in blue. But he uses his words first to diffuse a situation and it usually works well that way.
I understand that there are cops who do not work this way. There are cops who are unbearably racist, who hide behind their badge and the PBA. I hate what those cops do. I hate that they turn the public against good, well-meaning officers. I hate that the good, honest cops have to then work twice as hard because the public views them as the enemy even though they have done nothing to deserve it, just like the victims of the bad apples did nothing to deserve how they were treated. My heart goes out to those victims. I am truly sorry for what they have experienced.
I still can’t help but think, though, that many (not all) of the people who say “F*** the Cops!” and call them pigs are only saying those things because they are trying to hide something. It’s likely that they had some kind of an encounter with the police because they broke a law and were punished some way or another and now want to blame anyone else but themselves for their actions.
Maybe I’m wrong. Maybe I’m way off base. But this has been my experience with people like that. People who hate another group of people do so usually because of their own problems.
It’s those people that I lose sleep over because those are the kind of people that kill officers. They exist in all races and economic backgrounds and they are the reasons why officers always have to be cautious and watch their backs.
I’ll probably get some flack for posting this, Lord knows I got enough of it after posting a comment on that video, but that’s the beauty of being Americans, right?
So what do you think? And to my fellow cop wives, how do you feel and react when someone refers to your spouse in a demeaning way?